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of the Moment: Hey, it beats, "Shut up!" which is what we used to yell, which had about as much effect on the cat as you might expect. -- August 16, 2004 |
Friday September 24, 2004 |
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"Religious factions will go on imposing their will on others unless the decent people connected to them recognize that religion has no place in public policy. They must learn to make their views known without trying to make their views the only alternative." --Barry Goldwater |
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Also, as I've been meaning to mention for a few days, I went over my whole Reviews page and added in the overall rating for every movie and book. Added them to the main page with the link to my review, I mean. I'm not overjoyed with the format of that page now, and may transfer it into tables of some sort, but for now you can at least see the score I gave a film/book before you actually click the link.
¤ Here's a quick link I strongly recommend. It's a page on the National Weather Service page, with a series of photos of parts of the Florida coastline before and after Hurricane Ivan. See five-story hotels collapse, homes vanish, and islands get cut in two.
¤ Now this case is just the sort of thing I'm talking about on my somewhat-misnamed Kiddy Porn article page.
If you read the whole article, you'll see ridiculous claims made by three parties, as well as a ridiculous state of affairs. The situation is absurd, in that the parents divorced acrimoniously, and are still so bitter that they only communicate in writing. Not even phone calls. Dad lives out of state and loves his kid enough that he actually comes to visit him and pays to stay in a hotel when he does. The ridiculous comments #3:
I don't really have a theory about this one. I could easily see dad teaching the kid that trick, taking a photo of it, and sending it to his ex-wife to piss her off. I can easily see the wife trying to twist this photo into something to cut off her hated ex-husband's visitation to his son. I can easily see dad and mom both being too stupid to really think clearly at all about the issue. What I can't see is what actually happened here. The whole attempt to prosecute dad seems to be based on the kid not knowing how to "moon" properly; if he'd just taught his little man to pull the pants down just below the ass and bend over, all would have been well. Instead the kid yanked his pants down to his ankles and bent over with the flexibility of youth, thus exposing himself completely. In retrospect, the wife might have a point; what sort of dad doesn't teach his kid to moon correctly by age 5? How is he supposed to survive in elementary school without mastering such a mandatory skill? As for my collected blog entries on the Kiddy Porn article page, here's a reader mail I've been meaning to post for weeks, but haven't ever gotten around to until now. It's from Natalie.
My first reaction to her mail was concern, as I wondered what I might have said that was encouraging of child pornography or minimizing of it. She didn't include a link, but I assumed she had to be talking about the article page, so I went and read it. And didn't see anything on there of much importance. After all, the page introduction says:
The page really isn't about kiddy porn, when you look at it. It's a collection of blog entries in which I mentioned news items about the issue, but they're all done in a humorous or ridiculous style. I talk about Pee Wee Herman's ongoing legal issues with his collection of vintage nudie magazines, some high school guys who took videos of the girls' locker room, a guy who posed as a terminally-ill teen to get teen girls to send him nude photos, etc. All things that were in the mainstream media in the first place. It wasn't until I read the page intro again, and noticed my second paragraph, that I got an inkling of what this person was writing to object about. (And I'd bet that she didn't read anything more than the page intro, assuming her email wasn't entirely generated by some sort of kiddy porn searching bot.) To again quote myself:
So yeah, I can see why someone would think I'm minimizing the issue. The problem is that I really enjoy shades of gray, and I don't have a problem saying lots of the kiddy porn obsession in the US today (oddly enough, the emailer in this instance is from Australia) is ridiculous. Like the news item that started this entry, on the dad taking a photo of his son mooning him. I don't see a problem with thinking that case is absurd and a waste of tax payer money and part of an ugly divorce/custody battle, or saying that a 15 y/o boy who got to have sex with his hot 25 y/o teacher was a lucky kid, while still condemning real kiddy porn and real pedophiles. That's why we have minds and the ability to think for ourselves and make distinctions between things. It's also why I'd be an unsuccessful politician, since as John Kerry is finding out, and Al Gore found out before him, there's no room for intelligence and nuance in modern politics, at least not in the US. It's far better to be telegenic and stick to a few core issues no matter what, since saying more just confuses people in our sound-bite era of journalism. (See the discussion of cognitive dissonance in the 4th CAP feedback below for more on this issue.) That being said, I should probably add a sentence or two to the intro to my Kiddy Porn articles page, just to make it 200% clear that I think it's a horrible thing and that I'd be fine if they just summarily castrated and/or executed any guy caught with prepubescent children. I realize that lots of pedophiles had severe trauma in their lives, and that they probably have some degree of psychopathic brain damage that keeps them from controlling their impulses, and that's a very sad thing. I'm pragmatic about it though; they can't help themselves, they'll do it again, and that tendency outweighs any possible benefit to society they might make. There, that should be sufficient to get anti-kiddy porn crusaders, liberals, and pedophiles angry with me. And thus is equilibrium restored. |
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thought my ongoing "discussion" with the CAP Alerts Guy must be
boring everyone, but since several people mailed in since Wednesday's blog
to say how much they were enjoying it, I guess it wasn't as painful for
you guys as I feared. I'm still not going to stick his third response to
me on this main blog page, but it is online on the new CAP
Alerts Correspondence page. That page holds all of the emails between
us, the introduction to my first email, as well as reader feedback to
date. And while I'm not posting CAP Guy's 3rd reply to me here (click
here to read it) I am going to fill space today by posting the four
reader emails I've added to the feedback section of that page.
As always, if you've got an opinion on the issue, feel free to share it.
CAP Alerts Correspondence Reader Feedback #1) The first mail is from C, and was sent after I posted the first CAP Alerts Guy mail.
I'm not entirely sure what C is saying about my take on CAP Guy's "50% of gays are pedophiles" comment. As far as I know, and the CAP guy didn't clarify the issue in his next reply, he really, honestly, completely believes that 50% of homosexual men are pedophiles. Not just in thought or lust, in actuality, and he doesn't mean they get hot for 17 y/o teens a month from the age of consent; no he means these gay men are actively interested and even plotting to abduct and rape young boys of every age. CAP Alerts guy doesn't see his much-loved Jesse Dirkhising case as some sort of aberration; he thinks that's how every gay man is, in their heart of hearts. And that's why I am comfortable saying he's insane. After all, even CAP Alerts Guy is willing to say 3% of the population is gay (he did so in one of these emails); he probably thinks this is a low ball figure, compared to the 10% some gay groups throw around. But that aside, just for the sake of the argument, say it's 3%. There are something like 135 million men in the US. Just making loose estimates, that's maybe 80m in their sexual ages, say 18-60 (don't quibble on the figures for now, I'm making very rough estimates). 3% of 80,000,000 is 2,400,000. 50% of that is 1.2m. So CAP Alerts Guy literally believes there are 1.2m active, boy-seeking pedophile gay men in the US. Sort of gives you a window into his paranoia and gay-obsession, doesn't it? On the other hand, how can he think there's such a high number and so few Jesse Dirkhising-type cases? Or is that why he thinks there's such a pro-gay media conspiracy; that there are cases like this all the time and they never make the news because they get covered up? And going a bit afield, if you want to look literally at C's last comment... isn't that the very definition of insanity? If some guy in the park is running around, rambling about how there's an invisible omnipotent being watching his every move and judging his every action and thought, and that guy does lots of weird stuff based on what he thinks his God demands, isn't that pretty much the clinical definition of insanity? Hearing voices that tell you what to do, or doing things for no logical reason? It's not the sort of thing that people are institutionalized for unless they're violent or dangerous, but it's still a form of mental derangement, if not outright insanity. So yeah, guy in the park with his own private god = crazy. Ten million people in church on Sunday with equivalent beliefs = religion. Strength in numbers, baby! And no, I'm obviously not saying every devoutly religious person is insane. Everything is about degrees; people who refuse to take medicine or go to a doctor because they think God's going to heal them if they just pray hard enough are nuts. I have no problem making that statement. People who take strength and guidance from what they envision a benevolent God to be are fine. Clinically speaking they're delusional, since isn't that the very definition of a delusion? Believing in something that's not there and can't be proven by any scientific meaning? But obviously there are degrees of delusion, and plenty of people believe in Bigfoot, ghosts, UFOs, their horoscope, Baby Jesus, etc. It's all well and good for big Mr. Atheist here to pass judgment on them all and their little lives... just as long as I remember that most of them think I'm delusional or outright crazy for not believing what they so devoutly believe. After all, there's plenty of evidence and proof of it, in their minds.
#2) Reader mail #2 comes from Jordan, who mailed after I posted the second CAP Alerts reply to me.
I hadn't really thought about the issue Jordan brings up, and I'll address it in a minute. During my emails I did consider bringing up the issue of men in prison; after all, are they really gay just because their only sexual outlet at that time is another man? Plenty of men do things with other men in prison that they would never do if they were free, and for them it's as much about sex as it is about power struggles, the human need for intimacy, boredom and confinement in close quarters, etc. I also considered the fact that almost every 15+ y/o male out there (and lots younger than that) would leap at the chance to have sex with an adult. The difference is that very few heterosexual teen boys get to nail a 21+ y/o woman, while lots of gay teens get to have sex with older gay men. Men are whores, after all, young or old, and it's not as if heterosexual men have set a high standard for their pickiness when it comes to screwing any woman who will have them. I didn't bring up either issue though, since you saw how the CAP Alerts Guy was in his emails. I tried very hard to keep him on a narrow range of subjects and tried not to go off topic (not that I succeeded at all) at all. It didn't matter; he twisted every argument into his comfort areas, regardless of whether or not I was actually talking about them, and if I'd brought up areas with a lot of shades of gray in them, like cases of pedophilia where the younger man is actually a very willing participant, or asked him if he considered gay rape in prison to be an actual homosexual act, it would have just given him the leash to go off on an entirely different issue. As for what Jordan says, it's another touchy issue with a lot of shades of gray in it, and not something to be discussed with a homophobic Christian movie reviewer. But as Jordan says, pedophilia is varied in its forms, and plenty of men (and women) molest children of their own genders while being exclusively heterosexual in their adult relationships. Like rape, pedophilia is more often about power and control and sick, wounded individuals acting out in a way that makes them feel better about themselves. I assume most everyone knows that almost 100% of adult pedophiles were abused themselves as children. As Hannibal said about Buffalo Bill, "He wasn't born a criminal; he was made one through years of systematic abuse." a description that applies to most pedophiles. Anyway, it's a good subject for debate some day, but not with Mr. CAP Alerts; that's way, way, way out of his little wading pool depth of immorality and human behavior.
#3) This mail is from Donnie, who had a lot to say, and who proves quite adept and picking out CAP Alert Guys' blatant hypocrisy. My comment is in black and not indented.
How about the actual words of his sentences, even aside from the intent? Remember, this guy was nitpicking on my emails for things he considered grammatical errors, and showing off the paucity of his vocabulary in the process of telling me "secondly" wasn't a valid word. And he typed these words:
That may be the single most awkward sentence I've read this month. Malaya, who graded thousands of tests and term papers during her career as a TA in grad school, glanced at his writing and attempts to nitpick my emails, and immediately had his measure. Her opinion is that he's not very bright, but that he's tried very hard and read a lot of grammatical rules books. So he knows how to construct technically-correct sentences, but he's got no ear for the flow of language. He's robotic, in a way, and writes for a style manual, rather than for a human to read and understand. He doesn't have the vocabulary to really elevate his prose past easy comprehension, but you can tell that he would, if he could, and would think it showed how smart he was. As if writing in a style that most people can't understand is a good thing, for a mass communicator. In a weird sort of way, he reminds me of one especially-misguided 2-star review of Middlesex that I read on Amazon.com a couple of weeks ago. I can't link directly to it, but it should show up on this page, and if not you can sort them by "show 2 star reviews only" and scroll down; there are only 11 2-star reviews as of Sept 23, 2004, and it's the 11th one displayed. I'll just quote from the start of it:
Did your eyes glaze over yet? I'll discuss this review in greater length when I post my Middlesex review, but my point, in this context is that this is how CAP Alerts Guy would write, if he could. Lots of words, lots of misdirection, lots of cleverness, but virtually zero content in the end. It's the writing of someone trying to seem far more clever than they really are, and while in the book review it's meant to mock the author of Middlesex (who really is that clever, at least judging by his brilliant writing), for the CAP Alerts guy it would be a way to say very little while seeming brilliant in the process. All hat no cattle, in Texas terms. That digression aside, here's the conclusion of Donnie's email.
#4) Here's a mail from Lars, which he sent after viewing the CAP Alerts Guy's second reply. The first double indented part is him quoting me.
Interesting concept, eh? I have an article page about Religion, Nationality, and Sports Team Preference, and this email reminded me of it, for the blind adherence to _______, regardless of changing facts. I've heard the term "cognitive dissonance" many times, but had never heard of this interesting experiment. I'm left curious about it though; what reasons, if any, did the people give for remaining unshaken in their faith once they'd been told authoritatively that the foundation of it was a big lie? Did they simply refuse to believe what they were hearing? In searching for some more info about this, I found thousands of articles referring to the aforementioned study, and thought this quote was a good one. It's about the basic issue of cognitive dissonance, not the particular experiment discussed above. Check the article for a few more paragraphs than I'm quoting here:
Everyone knows how hard it is to change, if not for you than for most people. My view is that the more someone has invested in something, the harder it is to give it up. And when it comes to major things, like nationalism (country of birth/preference), sports team preference (the one you've been rooting for all your life), and religion (the one you were born and raised believing in), people have a lot of time invested in their beliefs. As the quote says, dropping a long-held belief system is very difficult, since it's not just change, it's accepting that what you used to believe in was worthless when you believed in it. You've got time invested in that thing, and the concept of "sunk costs" is much easier to grasp theoretically than in practice. Studies show that most people will stubbornly keep eating a bad meal they've already paid for, or sit through a bad movie they've already dropped bought a ticket to, since most people get that "I want to get my money's worth." concept stuck in their heads. Trust me, I'm no exception, though I often try to be. A more intelligent way to think about it is to accept the sunk cost, whatever that is. Money, time, effort, etc. You can't ever get that time, or money, or effort back; what you can do is cut your losses, learn from your mistakes, and move on, and making the best of what time/money/effort you have left. It's hard though, especially with cognitive dissonance clogging up our weak human minds and forcing us to justify things in any way possible. Politics is something we'd least like to see cognitive dissonance dominate; people should be able to evaluate the situation at hand and change their approach when necessary. That should be obvious; as the situation changes, the best tactics are going to change as well. Ironically, this sort of maturity and retrospection is actually a political liability, as Kerry has found out with his Republican-applied "flip flopper" label. Sticking to the same course, no matter how stubborn and unsuccessful your actions are, is seen as stupid and pig-headed in most areas, but for some reason, not in politics. I suppose part of that is that like with religion (and nationalism and sports team preference) people have a lot invested in their beliefs, and renouncing them, even a little bit, can feel like failure. An easy ongoing example is the war in Iraq. People initially said it was needed to stop Saddam from making nukes. Once it was proven that he wasn't even trying to go nuclear, it became a war to get the lesser WMDs. Once those didn't exist it was because Saddam had ties to Al Quida. Once those didn't exist it was to remove a cruel tyrant from power. Now that he's gone it's to promote democracy in the Middle East and create a free Iraq. As Iraq careens towards civil war and other nations in the area are driven deeper into theocratic fascism in a predictable response to the US invasion of their neighbor, the war's purpose and the justifications to continue it will likely change again. Through all of these developments some people have indeed been able to rethink their initial opinions, (as the WMDs failed to appear and the lack of competent post-war planning became obvious, I shed all remnants of my initial tentative support for the invasion) but lots of people are just as gung-ho about the war now as they ever were, despite all evidence to the contrary. Though the article doesn't use the term, this new this new flip-flopping article on Bush and Kerry points out another nice bit of cognitive dissonance: Bush supported tax cuts (largely for the rich, but let's not get into that here) when he was campaigning for president, since the Clinton years had produced a huge budgetary surplus. As the economy tanked under Bush's leadership and governmental expenditures skyrocketed, the surplus became a deficit, and Busy responded by... pushing for even more tax cuts, saying they were now needed to stimulate the economy. The obvious lesson here is that plenty of politicians, and regular people, support something, whether it's cutting taxes or something else, and they feel they have to stick to that belief no matter what. I don't think we can pin all of that on cognitive dissonance, but it's certainly something to keep in mind when you see people supporting something against all logic. Or worse yet, find yourself doing the same. |
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